Tuesday, November 25, 2008

How To Make Your Relationship Last Longer

There are billions of people in the world and most of them are either in a relationship or have experiences of getting involved in serious relationships in their lives. Many people are having different types of relationships such as, multi-cultural relationships, same-sex relationships and so forth. As American culture is becoming more and more diverse, it seems like there is no limit or restrictions in having a relationship. Love is a good thing for everyone but sometimes love turns into a drama or into a tragedy. We all work hard to stay in a healthy relationship by understanding and caring the person we love. Yet, it takes a lot of effort and time to make our relationship lasts longer these days. Here are some considerations to maintain healthy, long-term relationships.
First, it is very important to maintain equality in a relationship. Love that only one person always decides for everything will not work when it comes to a long-term relationship. If you have a bossy personality, you should start gently asking your boyfriend or girlfriend what he or she would like to eat or what he or she would like to do on weekends. On the other hand, if you are the shy one in a relationship, you should practice more to speak up to brighten your love relationship. Not “anything is fine with me” but “I’d like Italian food for dinner today” will be better.
Secondly, we should learn how to reconcile after a fight. Fighting is not a strange thing to do for couples. We don’t fight because we hate each other but we fight because we love and care for each other so much. It’s probably hard to understand for some people but it’s true anyways. However, if we don’t know how to reconcile after a serious fight, then there isn’t much chance to keep your relationship for a long time. Rather than holding onto your ego, just saying “I’m sorry” can be an answer sometimes. The most dangerous thing to do is not fighting to your boyfriend or girlfriend. If there’s a tiny little complaint in your relationship, you should have a fight. You will find out things that are new with your boyfriend or girlfriend during fight. The important thing here is how to reconcile rather than fight itself.
Last but not least, trust always comes first in a serious relationship. Everyone loves to be with his or her lovers all the time, but that means you get to invest less and less time for your own good if you start to spend pretty much all of your free time with your boyfriend and girlfriend. That also means you are taking away your lover’s free time from him or her. There’s nothing more essential than respecting each other’s free time in a love relationship. It’s hard to believe but if you carry faith in yourself about your lover, it will become a cornerstone to build a strong long-term relationship.
Believe it or not, trusting the person you love no matter what happens is the secret of making your relationship lasts longer. True love begins from trust. It may be an old fashioned way, but it still works the best.

2 comments:

Zeny's Perspective said...

HI!
I thought the story was really great and interesting. It is a big challenge in our day to maintain a healthy relationship. So I think you gave great details as to how to make sure your relationship will last. I agree with you on trust, its so important and a vital part of making a relationship worth while. Great Job i love the story.
-Zeny

Young Kim said...

Thanks Zeny!